Who you think you are has a lot of pull over how you act.

Are you so set on being something:

  • a business owner
  • thin
  • a “grade A” parent
  • easy-going wife/girlfriend/other
  • yoga leader
  • social media boss
  • et al

– that you aren’t okay with your changes as you grow?

If you’re not sure about the answer to that question, you should be relieved that most people have no idea.

It’s a fluffy sentence.

And I’ll do my best to describe the gravity of it all and what it means for you.

So let’s go back to the basics here:

Who do you think you are?

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How you answer this question is everything about how you think, behave, and believe life to be true for you.

As you think you are, so you behave.

Which is good news – because changing behaviors – and the behavior of change – significantly alters the outcome of any given situation. You have so much more power than you think you do.

Are you happy with where you are currently? Is your life what you wish it would be?

Yes? Congratulations! You’re the .001%. You don’t need to read any further. In fact, you should go ahead and start a blog and tell me about it.


But for the rest of us…

If you’re not happy with exactly where your life is at, then you get to change it.

And it’s not going to be pretty. Or easy. Or painless. But eventually you get to the point where stagnation is more uncomfortable than change. 🌹 So here we are.

I had an aha recently about how trauma or grief (or life experience) changes you. 
Maybe you’ve heard it before:
“Who we were 10 years ago is very different from who we are now – and so all of those relationships and grudges you’re holding onto are pointless because NONE of us are the same. We can’t talk to each other (or relate to each other) the way we used to.”
We get so caught into identifying as the person we were >>before<< the trauma that when dealing with a life change, we have no clue where to start, even.

We must learn who we are now.

And here’s the kicker: trauma (and, well, life) happens repeatedly throughout our life.
So who we are post-trauma is consistently happening. We are constantly changing.
Stop mulling over in the identity of who you once were. 
Instead, focus on, “okay, this is the next phase, who am I, what do I want, how will I accomplish it”
It’s like being gifted a clean slate every time we have a new reason to be someone new.

And with a new identity, we get to become and be whomever we want.

Because every action we take is a vote for who we are choosing to be tomorrow.

Here’s your action steps:

  1. Stop thinking of yourself in terms of who you once were.
  2. Decide where you’re going and who you want to be.
  3. Act as if.

And that, my friend, is exactly how you “manifest” things. You’ll have to let me know how this goes for you.



  1. Thank you for sharing so many good points I need to internalize! Re-r eading… I’ve always loved “Act as if” and “As a man thinketh in his heart , so is he “. Proverbs 23:7 The fact that we and they are no longer the people we were if a new thought process for me… Such Truth~

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